Barbara "Tootie" E. Gray

Barbara “Tootie” E. Gray, 55, died peacefully at home in Trenton surrounded by her family and friends, due to a lifelong illness, May 8, 2012. She was born March 31, 1957 in Salem, MA., the daughter of Edward P. and Barbara (Robbins) Gray.

Tootie’s passion was being surrounded by family and friends at camp on Toddy Pond and the 4^th of July celebrations. She loved riding her wave runner, her road trips, but most of all she enjoyed spending time with her grandchildren.

She is survived by her soul mate of 18 years, Scott Ashey of Trenton. Two daughters;Veronica Verburgt and husband, Matt of Franklin and Patricia Staples and husband Todd of Bar Harbor. Grandchildren: Tim, Andrew, Whitney, Benjamin, Matthew and Hunter as well as previous step-children, Aaron, Amy and Christopher. Sister, Patricia Sawyer Donnell of Ellsworth, sister-in-law, Marsha Sawyer of Trenton and several nieces and nephews and many more that loved her.

Barbara was predeceased by her parents, Edward and Barbara Gray, brother, Harrison Sawyer and son-in-law, Benjie Abbott.

Friends are invited to call 5:00-7:00PM, Monday, May 14, 2012 at Jordan-Fernald, 1139 Main St., Mt. Desert, where funeral services will be held 1:00PM, Tuesday, May 15. Interment will be at Goose Cove Cemetery, Trenton.

Written by Bruce & Deb Staples, May 10, 2012

Patty & family,
We are so sorry to learn of "Tootie's" passing, she was truly one of a kind and will be missed by so many, having known her for close to 50 years, there will a void no one else will be able to fill. Keep her & all your memories in your heart and she will always be with you. We are here for you.
Love, Bruce, Deb, Brad & Em (Staples)

Written by Joni Smith & family, May 11, 2012

To: Scott, Patty, and Veronica

So Sorry for your loss. Tootie was such a fun, enthusiastic person, and a darn good card player. She had a heart of gold. If you needed help, encouragement, whatever- Tootie was always there. We will miss her, but I'm sure she will be right up there with her parents, brother and friends playing cards, grinning from ear to ear, and just being Tootie. Love you girl! Joni Smith and family!!

Written by Robert Kearns and Family, May 12, 2012

Tootie....probably the nicest lady you'll ever meet . You've been through so much my dear and always kept going . You've packed 2 lifetimes into 55 yrs . Now go with the lord and be free sweet angel . GOD BLESS

Written by Robert & Laureen Leland, May 12, 2012

Patty and family,

We are so sorry for the loss of your mother. Tootie sure has been a sick girl. We hope your memories of her will keep you and your family strong. Tootie was a strong person she had to have been for all she has been through. We are here if you need us.

Love,

Robert and Laureen

Written by Patti Leland, May 13, 2012

I have know Tootie most of my life and am proud to to be able to call her my friend. She made the most amazing wreaths I have ever seen. I enjoyed our chats about Trenton and its history. She is certainly going to be missed. Patty, Veronica, Patricia, Scott and the rest of Tootie's family, I am here for you. Love, Patti Leland

Written by Owen & Jackie Oliver, May 14, 2012

To Scott and all Barbara's family;
Toddy Pond will not be the same without Barbara on her wave runner, and always a big smile on her face. We were down to camp last week and looked for her. To meet her and know her was to love her. We are so sorry for your loss. She will live on in our hearts and we will remember her as a bright shining example of how to live our lives.
With Love and Sympathy from the whole Oliver clan,
Owen & Jackie, Jason & Kris, Lily and Hazen

Written by Yvonne, May 14, 2012

What can you say?? Barb always lived life the way she wanted. Always! So many words shared, so many great memories. Wherever Barb is she is strong and on the good long road trip forever. She is in a wonderful place being who she is and no one will ever tell her differently! Now she is free.

Patti and Ronnie my heart goes out to you. Scott thank goodness she ahs had you all these many years. You are just what Barb needed.

Written by Cindy White, May 14, 2012

I met Tootie when we were in high school and always admired her spirit. She always had a smile for anyone and an encouraging word for you no matter what life dealt her. She will be dearly missed. Sorry for your loss.

Written by Jean Whitaker, May 16, 2012

Tootie and I went through grammar school together here in Trenton, and then her children went to school with my children. She was a very strong woman who fought her illness hard. Trenton won't be the same without her. Sad to have her have to go so young. My thoughts are with her family. Rest in peace, Tootie.

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