LAURA BUTTLES crossed over to the other side on March 10, 2010 at Blue Hill Memorial Hospital from complications brought on by Alzheimer's disease. She was born on Sept. 21, 1959 in Newark, NJ the daughter of Joseph Edward and Kathryn (McCabe) Buttles.
She was a graduate of Plantation High School (1977) in Plantation, FL and Rutgers University (1982) in New Brunswick, NJ.
She is survived by her mother; brother, James Buttles; aunts, Carol Greig and Judy McCabe; cousin, Cindy Greig; cousin, Stephen Greig and his family -- wife, Tanya, and daughters Anela and Isabelle. She is also survived by her ex-husband Gabor Kover; very special niece Sara Kover and lifelong friend, Tanya Field. Laura was predeceased by her father; her grandparents, Marguarite and Joseph McCabe; her uncle, Graham McCabe; and her beloved Yorkshire terrier, Hildy.
We worked together at Sweet Pea Farm in Salisbury Cove. She harvested and I sold. She was 37 years old. She possessed great beauty, impeccable work ethic and a quick wit. I laughed easily and had enormous appreciation for her talents so we became good friends.
As I remember her... she loved all things beautiful, animals, and the movies. She had been married to a man who works in the movie industry, Gabor Kover. She always knew where there was a great movie. We frequented Reel Pizza.
In time... she couldn't keep a job, became lost wherever she drove and the movies came to an end because she couldn't stand the loud sounds or remember the story line as it unfolded.
We knew what we wished we didn't. Her partner, Rob Rhodes, did all he could to keep her in the setting she knew until the obvious move could not be delayed. He shared his grief with me and together we helped her make that frightful journey at such an early age. The words Alzheimer's disease were on our lips. She was now 48.
At the Island Nursing Home in Deer Isle, Laura was well-cared for and loved by the staff. Her faithful roommate, Deborah Arnold, watched over her like a mother. She was blessed to have Debbie, without whom she would not have had as good a quality of life or lived as long. How Laura loved Debbie.
The residents loved Laura, as well. Upon our return from lunch trips in Stonington, they greeted her like she was Mother Theresa. She smiled and glowed. My heart lightened. Angels abide in those halls and we call them nurses.
The garden was her refuge, a place through which we walked while she introduced me to flowers. She could weed and nurture as was her nature. Time took its toll but it didn't take her wit. She owned it until the final days of her life. Even in delirium, she found something about which to smile and the visions of flowers danced in her head.
The laughter never stopped. It was a friendship I will always cherish and I will miss her. In that, I am not alone. Helen Douglas
A "Remembrance Gathering" will be held on June 5, 2010 at 2 pm. in the gardens at the Island Nursing Home, Deer Isle, ME. All those who knew and helped Laura are encouraged to attend. Memorial donations can be made to the Island Nursing Home Garden Project, 587 North Deer Isle Rd., Deer Isle, ME 04627.
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