Ruth Whittle Cary, 83, passed away on December 22nd after a brief battle with cancer. She was born October 14, 1929 in Martinsville Virginia, the daughter of Flora (Redd) and Henry Drewry Whittle.
She graduated from Martinsville High School and attended Beaver College (now Arcadia University) in Glenside Pennsylvania. In 1950, she married Campbell Cary in Martinsville. They moved to Wilmington Delaware in 1953, Brunswick Maine in 1985 and then further “downeast” to Mount Desert Island in 1998. Despite moving away from Virginia at the age of 24, she forever retained her southern charm and beautiful accent. She was known for her hospitality and her ability to make everyone she met feel special and welcome. During her last few weeks, this love and respect was reflected back with the many visits, cards, calls and assistance from family and friends near and far. Ruth raised, cared for and loved her three children, creating a warm and loving home for her family. In addition, she was an active volunteer and community member wherever she resided. In Wilmington, She was active in the Wilmington Senior Center and the Junior League of Wilmington. Once her children were in school, she became a guide at Winterthur Museum and started The Yarn Patch--a small specialty shop. When they moved to Brunswick, Ruth quickly became active with the Mid Coast Hospital. She also organized the first Auxiliary community yard sale. She was a charter member of Mid-Coast Presbyterian Church in Topsham and chaired the building committee for the creation of the present church campus. On Mount Desert Island, Ruth joined the Bar Harbor Garden Club, serving as their president from 2003-2005. She joined the Somesville Congregational Church and enjoyed exploring the walking trails on the island and hosting winter soup luncheons for her “Footloose Friends.” Ruth enjoyed sailing, golf, hiking, traveling, and gardening. Never losing her love of learning and discovering new interests, she took up water color painting spending hours of creating in her studio. She took several Senior College classes, and enjoyed learning the right way to play croquet. Summers, however, were reserved for spending time at Pond island off Milbridge Maine. She visited Pond Island for the first time on her honeymoon and quickly fell in love with its rustic and rugged beauty. All of the Pond Island “cousins” quickly became family and helped create years of amazing memories. She was particularly grateful the help these “cousins’ gave in recent years that allowed Cam and her to continue spending the summer at their beloved Bungalow.
In addition to Campbell Cary, her husband of 62 years, Ruth is survived by her three children, Mary Campbell Cary and husband Greg Frosberg of Anchorage AK, Whittle Redd Cary and wife Ruth K. Cary of Huntsville AL, and Sarah Cary Robinson and husband Keith P. Robinson of Steuben ME. She has five grandchildren; Brian Campbell Cary, Amanda Rae Cary, William Stafford Cary, Cary Burgess Robinson and Keith Whittle Robinson. She was predeceased by her parents and two brothers, Henry Drewry Whittle and John Redd Whittle. She is survived by her sister-in-law Denise Whittle Derham. She loved all her nieces and nephews on both sides of the family. In particular, she especially appreciated the close bond that developed during adulthood with her niece Sally Whittle Lake and her family.
A memorial service celebrating Ruth’s life will be held Saturday January 5th, at 1pm at the Somesville Union Meeting House (UCC). In lieu of flowers, the family suggests that donations be made in Ruth’s memory to Somesville Union Meeting House (UCC), PO Box 96 Mt Desert, ME 04660.
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